That’s a great question! Why can’t it be both? I enjoy going with the flow, but I also prefer to have a loose outline. Spontaneity is excellent, especially when there is some preparation behind it. As a woman, and a Black woman at that, my top priority in navigating the world is always safety, even … More Spontaneity with a Side of Caution
J’ai longtemps hésité avant de publier ceci, car cela peut sembler un peu fou. Mais si vous êtes encore là, à suivre ce voyage avec moi, plus rien ne devrait vraiment vous surprendre ! Alors voilà… Comment se remet-on de quelqu’un avec qui on n’a jamais été en couple ? On m’a posé cette question récemment, pour … More Obsession ou Désir Inachevé?
If you’re in your early thirties or nearing that age, can you share whether your relatives are unusually obsessed with your love life? Because let me tell you, the moment I step into any gatherings, after someone comments on my fluctuating weight (as if that’s their business), the very next question is: “So… are you … More So Obsessed with Our Love Lives, why?
While I don’t have one specific answer, I do know that denim is definitely out of the question! I’d be in full sensory overload! It’s a tough call since I live in a region with all four seasons, so the outfit would need to work year-round. If I had to choose, I’d go with something … More Gold, Grey, and a Splash of Scarf: The Ultimate Uniform”
Without a doubt, it’s trying to manage other people’s feelings and emotions. It’s draining, and honestly, it’s a full-time job I never signed up for. That’s why I’ve been working on setting and sticking to my boundaries. Most of the time, what I really want to say is, ‘Please get out of my face with that nonsense.’ … More “What’s the biggest way I waste time every day?
Mine would be: Being me isn’t a phase. It’s a whole movement. Catch up. Authenticity isn’t just a vibe, it’s a way of life. Living in alignment with who you are, while staying considerate of others, is the real flex. No more shrinking. No more pretending. Just truth, presence, and power.
Les sentiments, parfois, c’est tellement étrange. Je croise tant d’âmes égarées, en quête d’un ancrage, même passager. Une présence, un regard, un instant où l’on peut se sentir moins seul. Dans le fond, ne sommes-nous pas tous pareils sans le savoir ? Reliés par nos désirs d’appartenance, le besoin de compter pour quelqu’un, d’exister dans … More Le chagrin des “presque”….
I just have to say it out loud: being an adult is tough! Who signed me up for this? Where do I go to opt out? From where I’m standing, this whole “independent, self-sufficient, thriving adult” thing feels like a scam. On the outside, I may have it all together. My skin is moisturized, my … More In the trenches, literally!
Growing up in religious settings can lead to different paths. It can turn you into a devout believer, deeply rooted in doctrine, or cause you to walk away entirely. For me, it resulted in a commitment to being open-minded. I realized early on that there are always multiple sides to any story. There are different … More Being Open Minded.
I’m heading to the gym, wearing my oldest pair of worn-in New Balance sneakers. They’re not fancy—sturdy and a bit scuffed—but they carry a story. I received them from my Nana after I shared with her how going for walks was helping my mental health. True to her character, she sprang into action and discovered … More To be loved is to be heard.
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