Have you ever felt the love?
I grew up in Haiti where colorism is so prevalent that mothers of young children tend to use bleaching soaps on them or during their pregnancy. I don’t remember seeing dark skinned girls in popular bands videos. I also don’t think they were too many dark skinned women winning beauty contest or generally being on TV.
When I was in high school a math teacher decided to give his personal opinion on who was beautiful in the classroom. I don’t why that man thought using my parents money not to teach what he was paid for was a good idea…. but he did. He started rating the students “beauty “ and his only criteria were skin color and hair texture. Of course he was a dark skinned man who was so proud to explain why his wife was a lighter tone; cleaning his family. The year after his insensitive remarks, many of the dark skinned girls of the class started bleaching their skins. Of course, they were criticized for doing so! The hypocrisy doesn’t stop!
One time, a friend told me that I would basically be a beauty queen if I had a lighter skin color. I have the height, the face, the eloquence, the style, the intelligence, but too bad that my skin was so dark. Lol! I don’t blame her because she grew up listening to what beauty standards were in our society. People also thought I needed advice for my nose proportions, like I wasn’t Haitian! However, one of the most terrible things I’ve ever read was from a women advertising bleaching products to clean my skin via messenger… (She was shocked that I went full Manje Sale mood on that ass) You wonder why!
People tend to swipe those issues under the rugs and act as they were not part of the damages done to our people by the colonizers. As if light skinned people were not the result of the rape of our African women by the French and Spanish savages who colonized our ancestors. They feel closer to the white men ignoring their mothers’s pains and humiliations. Oh well!
Now that I am away from my country, I’ve discovered that the experiences of black Caribbean, Asian, Afro Latinas, and dark skinned African American women are similar. A lot black men, especially darker skin tone have the tendency of bashing women that look like them…… Why?… Have you heard of self-hatred? Oh okayyyyyy. Time for some readings 😌😌😌
Watching as show like Black is King brings so much joy and emotions to me, well it’s Beyoncé anyways 🤷🏾♀️! But I really enjoyed every bit of it because I have the feelings that young girls, more than ever need to see those type of representations on TV, billboards, runway shows, hospitals, schools, universities, etc. All types of hair and skin tone within the black community need to be valued and celebrated!
PS: Sis, if you have to use five different types of products for a wash n go….. just let it go and celebrate your Bantu knots. Also, you should look for new YouTube tutorials 😉😉😉 #justsaying