Feeling Yourself

Have you ever felt the love?

Danm!!! She looks Good!!!!!

I grew up in Haiti where colorism is so prevalent that mothers of young children tend to use bleaching soaps on them or during their pregnancy. I don’t remember seeing dark skinned girls in popular bands videos. I also don’t think they were too many dark skinned women winning beauty contest or generally being on TV.

When I was in high school a math teacher decided to give his personal opinion on who was beautiful in the classroom. I don’t why that man thought using my parents money not to teach what he was paid for was a good idea…. but he did. He started rating the students “beauty “ and his only criteria were skin color and hair texture. Of course he was a dark skinned man who was so proud to explain why his wife was a lighter tone; cleaning his family. The year after his insensitive remarks, many of the dark skinned girls of the class started bleaching their skins. Of course, they were criticized for doing so! The hypocrisy doesn’t stop!

One time, a friend told me that I would basically be a beauty queen if I had a lighter skin color. I have the height, the face, the eloquence, the style, the intelligence, but too bad that my skin was so dark. Lol! I don’t blame her because she grew up listening to what beauty standards were in our society. People also thought I needed advice for my nose proportions, like I wasn’t Haitian! However, one of the most terrible things I’ve ever read was from a women advertising bleaching products to clean my skin via messenger… (She was shocked that I went full Manje Sale mood on that ass) You wonder why!

People tend to swipe those issues under the rugs and act as they were not part of the damages done to our people by the colonizers. As if light skinned people were not the result of the rape of our African women by the French and Spanish savages who colonized our ancestors. They feel closer to the white men ignoring their mothers’s pains and humiliations. Oh well!

Now that I am away from my country, I’ve discovered that the experiences of black Caribbean, Asian, Afro Latinas, and dark skinned African American women are similar. A lot black men, especially darker skin tone have the tendency of bashing women that look like them…… Why?… Have you heard of self-hatred? Oh okayyyyyy. Time for some readings 😌😌😌

Watching as show like Black is King brings so much joy and emotions to me, well it’s Beyoncé anyways 🤷🏾‍♀️! But I really enjoyed every bit of it because I have the feelings that young girls, more than ever need to see those type of representations on TV, billboards, runway shows, hospitals, schools, universities, etc. All types of hair and skin tone within the black community need to be valued and celebrated!

PS: Sis, if you have to use five different types of products for a wash n go….. just let it go and celebrate your Bantu knots. Also, you should look for new YouTube tutorials 😉😉😉 #justsaying

Sophie J

Heads in Clouds

15 thoughts on “Feeling Yourself

  1. I am what is considered like “light skin” in Haiti and while I was growing up I could experienced the privileges associate with that. Now that I have a BF who’s darker than my complexion I found many people telling me that “they thought that I liked lighter skin”, hinting that he’s too dark for me…
    ven black people is being segregationist to each other but we play offended when white people is being racist…

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    1. We grew up together so I can definitely understand where you’re coming from. And yesterday black hypocrisy is the worst thing ever

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  2. Yyyaaassss…. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
    I got my self esteem on my own. But younger, I considered myself ugly because of society… now, there is nothing that society can take away from me…

    NOT MY CONFIDENCE

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  3. Map pran yon egzanp byen senp map Viv Sen domeng mwen abite nan yon edifis. Mwen gen yon vwazinn an fas mwen ki nwa cheve grenn menm jan ak mwen lèl lap pale avèm li relem morena = fanm nwa, pandan se tan lè lap pale ak lòt moun ki nan menm edifis la ki pi klè yo li rele yo vecina = vwazin. Kesyon pam eske se rasis ou mank edikasyon ou inyorans. Antouka nou rete anpil travay ankò poun fè avan nou derasinen bagay ki rele rasis la.

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  4. Pandan m’ap li eksperyans ou fè ak profesè nan klas ou a msonje mt fè Yon eksperyans lekol tou men ki te ekzateman opoze pa w la. Men se te Yon grenn fwa tou sa te rive. Te gen Yon demwazel nan klas la ki te ranpli tout kondisyon pou Moun bèl sosyete a mande : grimèl, bèl cheve, fès elatriye. Se te rèn bote sa l la pou mpa di tout lekòl la. Tout Moun , (pwòf, elèv) toujou ap admire bote li.

    Epi ( kontrèman ak tout Moun) gen yon pròf chimie ki te prefere bote pa m pou koulè po m. PS: nan fi yo koulè po m te pi fonse. Profesè a toujou ap fè elòj pou fi koulè po nwa fonse. Li rele tout fi ki pi nwa yo ” mes fleurs noirs”. Malgre li pat janm di demazel grimèl la pat yon flè men poutèt se pat limenm ak lòt medam po klè yo prof la mete en valè ( jan sa toujou fèt )li di pròf la ” mkonprann ou wi, ou pa konn bon bagay, ou pa konn gou bouch ou”. Ou ka wè aklè nan ki nivo sa te vekse li.
    Men nòmalman pwòf la pat gen dwa pou vin mete etikèt ( pi bèl, mwens bèl ) sou nou paske sa pa antre nan kad travay li. Anpil fwa pwof yo depase limit yo nan egzèsis pwofesyon yo. Bref koze nyans nan koulè po sa fè anpil dega nan sosyete a epi malerezman kontinye ap fè dega.

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    1. M pa fache ke eksperyans pa w la ye diferan men mapresye ke w rekonèt anpil fwa pwofesè yo kite objektif travay yo lè yo vinn nan sijè pèsonèl sa yo, sitou nan lekòl kap fòme adolesan. Mèsi anpil pou temwanyaj ou!

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