SophieJ Life Experiences

Let’s leave behind things in 2023 that no longer serve us!

Enabling toxic behavior from close friends or family members is a common problem that many of us face. Such individuals can be a professional burden, causing unnecessary drama, lying, and slandering others. Their actions can impact those close to them and their opportunities, deals, and friendships. Over time, their manipulative ways become public knowledge, and people are no longer surprised by their antics. If you haven’t encountered such individuals, you may be one, who knows? It’s important to note that this blog represents my personal thoughts, reflections, and observations. While my goal is never to offend you, sometimes I may do so unintentionally. Still, it’s all for our mutual improvement

The issue at hand is about more than just the behavior that’s being exhibited. It’s also about those who allow it to persist and make excuses for it. They justify it by saying it has been happening for a long time, as if that makes it okay. But aren’t they just as guilty for allowing such behavior to exist around them? Are they trying to silence the ones who are fed up with it because they want to maintain peace? But what kind of peace is it? It’s only funny when both parties find a joke amusing. Even if there’s a beautiful rug to cover the mess, it’s still there. Let’s be honest and accept why we, as a community, don’t confront these individuals. How are we enabling this behavior in 2023? Why don’t we hold them accountable? Why do we allow others to hurt everyone else, including themselves?

I support the idea of personal autonomy, finding your voice, and expressing yourself confidently. However, it’s crucial to balance this with self-reflection, respect, and accountability so that you don’t end up being remembered as someone who didn’t live up to their potential. If we don’t allow certain behaviors to continue, they won’t persist. Many of us were raised as passive bystanders, but it’s time to change that. Please speak up when something does not affects you directly because it could affect others.

When discussing the importance of accountability, do not feel upset or offended if you suspect you may be part of the problem. Recognizing that change may be necessary is the first step toward improvement. You can even confirm this by conversing with the “black sheep” of your family, who usually speak their mind and point out issues happening in the family. Suppose they won’t talk to you because you have already driven them away. In that case, you can alternatively self-reflect through journaling, walking, signing up for therapy, moving out, or even seeking guidance from an exorcist. The methods you choose are not a concern; the main goal is for us to eventually improve. No judgment here.

PS: One day, we may question why telling young girls to change clothes around certain family members is necessary, but that’s a conversation for another time.