SophieJ Life Experiences

It’s cold and depressing, so let’s talk about relationships…. 

For the past few years, being on social media and not tumbling upon a relationship guru is nearly impossible. Sometimes, it is barely 7 in the morning, and if you’re like me you probably asked, why and why again!

One common theme appears to be marriages and shared responsibilities in the household. It is apparently not common sense that household chores are gender-free. Some superb specimens of the male community seem to think any chores are beneath them. From my understanding, they go from being princes in their parents’ homes to kings of their castles. Life can be so sweet for some people! So imagine their surprises when their significant other, mainly wives, dare to ask them to do anything! Like, yes, how dare they ask to help with cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, and the kicker: helping with the kids! I would be mad too. What do you mean? As a man and head of this household, they should lower themselves and contribute?

The more I think about it, the more I feel for those poor men! Is there any support group? You might think this is it, but it became way worse. Some women, allegedly, because I am not part of this group, are breaking peaceful unions. They ask for more than the bare minimum, have high expectations, talk back, and stand up for themselves! Wow, just wow. Like, isn’t it enough for a man to grace them with his sole presence? He has to have more than that! I would be baffled too! I heard the ladies expect kindness, respect, thoughtful gestures, and deep conversations! They are actually asking for a partnership! I don’t understand! In all those great books on marriages written in the past, primarily by men, this is not the point; women were content with being home, bearing children, and, most importantly, keeping quiet! 

Some of y’all might think I’m joking or being sarcastic, but no! I really feel for men! If I have to say I know it’s not all men in a comment, I might lose it, so let’s clarify that we all know that it is not all men. But seriously, can you imagine being on a pedestal for centuries and having to reconsider your privileges? Who cares if they were sexist practices, completely outdated, or even detrimental to a large group of people! It is a hard pill to swallow. I read several articles, and you can, too, if you want, about a severe decline in marriages and the birth rate. Just google it, friends. I wonder why? Could women be so tired of horrible treatment, bare minimum, femicide, and emotional labor of being wife and mother that they would instead get their money up, adopt a couple of pets, and live happily? On the bright side, since they were already conditioned to cook and clean growing up, they probably can also take care of their household. Look at GOD! Won’t he do it! Anyway, stay safe out there, kings. Keep your head high. A pick-me will probably save you…. Oh, wait, you seem to not want them to. Oops.

PS: Friend? Should I start to monetize the blog? I am now drinking mushroom coffee, being healthy is draining your girl!