Ladies, Where Are the Perfect Gentlemen?

Where are the perfect men of the 21st century?????

You would think we would have figured out everything there is to know about the dating world by now. I mean, it’s 2021, and there are so many options available.

You can meet people in person—well, maybe not highly recommended with this virus still running around, but who doesn’t like a little excitement?

If you’re more cautious, you can meet people online and spend long hours talking, texting, and FaceTiming. There are so many dating apps available that you could practically be blown away by the possibilities!!!!!!!

And if you’re a booked, busy, and bougie girl who has absolutely no time to waste, there are even premium dating apps where, supposedly, you can be sure people are there for the exact reasons they described in their bios.

Supposedly.

A little lie here and there, perhaps, but once again… excitement!

Still, finding the partner of your dreams is HARD.

I mean, the men’s factory is apparently extremely complex!!!

Why can’t you find a faithful, handsome, successful, athletic Black man who is 6 feet tall all in one place? Fine, 5’11” or 5’10” are perfectly acceptable too. I’m reasonable.

Oh! And he can cook, takes his spirituality seriously, is super clean, and is a great lover, of course.

Because let’s be serious: all those previously mentioned qualifications mean absolutely nothing if he’s a bad lover. 🤷🏾‍♀️

I mean…

Why do women keep messing with fuckboys?

Maybe it’s because the fuckboys have somehow mastered the art of getting through to women’s hearts, while the men with potential are too busy laying out all their possessions instead of showing us their actual qualities.

You have a house?

Congratulations.

A car?

Wonderful.

A career?

Love that for you.

But… who are you?

What kind of man are you when nobody is impressed by your résumé? What do you actually bring into a relationship besides the things you’ve accumulated?

Because maybe the search for the “perfect gentleman” isn’t really about finding a man who checks every single box.

Maybe it’s about finding someone whose character can actually stand beside all those accomplishments.

Anyway…

All this thinking has given me a headache.

I deserve some online shopping. Yep, Corona times.

Probably shoes and a headwrap.

They never disappoint.

Unlike…

Suivez mon regard. 👀